I've been single for two years now.
All I really do these days is work, hang out with a couple close friends, and sleep in. Not much of a social life right now except for the internet, which pretty much kills all my chances of meeting someone.

Kona Wrote:o__0 This... is a interesting thread. I know a lot of people in my school who date. And yes i know this sounds weird but I'd prefer NOT to date till I'm in my mid twenties. I drives me crazy when some people don't understand that I'm not interested!

Meh. Some people are entirely unable to understand life choices that are not their own. Try telling people you don't want to get married and don't want kids...some people get REALLY OFFENDED over one or both of those things.

Honestly, when I think back on my life all the way through to high school, I would say at least 95% of the time when I wished I was in a relationship, it was only because I was worried about what other people might think about why I wasn't in one (was I a loser, was I a weirdo, was I not interested in dudes*, yada yada). It wasn't so much that I actually felt lonely or anything, unless you count feeling like the 5th wheel when with friends who were all actually in relationships (and I don't count that).

*Not that I would especially give a shit if anyone thought this per se, but it does kind of make it hard to have a guy EVER interested in you--or, at least, willing to do something about being interested in you--if he thinks you're not hetero, y'know?

I'm going to turn 20 next month, myself and I have never been with a woman.

Reason being that I'm not mature enough to handle the emotional bearings that a relationship can have.

Also, I plan to stay single for the next 5 years or so. Adding to that, I have nothing to offer a member of the opposite sex at this present time.

I don't have a job (I was laid off), and I don't have a car. What woman in her right mind, would date me? (not that I'm complaining, just putting it out there)


Now, let's rewind say... eight years.

I was 12 and I had my first "girlfriend" she was actually, just the first girl I liked. At one point I said this to my sister: "I can almost turn my L-I-K-E into L-O-V-E"

and that was my last experience with girls.

I have a crush on one now, but it can wait.

Well, there are other details I didn't mention on my post.

It's not the only reason I'm single, but I would like to have a job first. I don't wanna take her to Fast food restaurant and order off the $.99 cent menu, not only that, but my only method of transportation is my bicycle and taking her on my bike is out of the question.
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There are things I'd like to have before I'm ready to date and I'm not. At least, not yet.

typicaltronname Wrote:Well, there are other details I didn't mention on my post. It's not the only reason I'm single, but I would like to have a job first. I don't wanna take her to Fast food restaurant and order off the $.99 cent menu, not only that, but my only method of transportation is my bicycle and taking her on my bike is out of the question. . There are things I'd like to have before I'm ready to date and I'm not. At least, not yet.

What if SHE had a car?

Relationships.. They blow. Mind you, this coming from a emotionally scarred, girl such as myself.

I have just recently (early Feb.) been broken up from my ex-fiancée. It was probably the hardest break-up I've ever, ever been through. My heart felt like it had been wrenched from my body. It's still extremely painful.. and sometimes I swear, I'm very uncertain how I make it through the day. It's hard from going from having a guy look at you like you're everything to him to having that same guy tell you that he loves you, but isn't in love with you. That sentence alone replays in my head and it hurts every damn time. The thing is.. I know I'm better off without him. I believe in it 100%, but even with that belief.. it doesn't make this break-up hurt any less.

Still... Life goes on, you know? I can't hold onto a memory. I've got to move on with my life and I'm in the process of picking up those pieces of my life and putting them back together. It's a long freaking journey though.. It really is.

well, there's this girl, whom I only had contact with during gym. She was in one other class, but I could never get close to her because her desk was so far away. I went into the fourth quarter of school, intending to tell her that I had affection for her. I went to gym class, and I abruptly found out she was in health this quarter.
(in my school, you have 3 quarters gym, 1 quarter health.)

P.S. Any advice?

User897 Wrote: xQuorrax Wrote:You know.. in a way, I'm oddly content that I might not find anyone again. Sure, it's safe and sometimes, lonely, I guess but.. eh. The way I was left this last time, makes me want to make it the last time. Everyone keeps saying.. it takes time. Yes. I know. But... I was always afraid that I would end up realizing that the one for me, was one that didn't work out for me. You know? Like, an ex was really the one meant for me, but I wasn't meant for them, thus the reason we broke up. I guess, I was afraid that I had my chance and nothing became of it. And sadly, I feel that way about this one. Time heals all wounds, I know. But I'm more than positive, this wound will always be open. . > Don't mean to bring down the mood, ha... Some may take it as a downer, I take it as the gospel truth.

As do I after having just gotten played by a sociopathic bitch. Ah well. Walls are going back up. Real ones this time

CorrupTron Wrote: User897 Wrote: xQuorrax Wrote:You know.. in a way, I'm oddly content that I might not find anyone again. Sure, it's safe and sometimes, lonely, I guess but.. eh. The way I was left this last time, makes me want to make it the last time. Everyone keeps saying.. it takes time. Yes. I know. But... I was always afraid that I would end up realizing that the one for me, was one that didn't work out for me. You know? Like, an ex was really the one meant for me, but I wasn't meant for them, thus the reason we broke up. I guess, I was afraid that I had my chance and nothing became of it. And sadly, I feel that way about this one. Time heals all wounds, I know. But I'm more than positive, this wound will always be open. . > Don't mean to bring down the mood, ha... Some may take it as a downer, I take it as the gospel truth. As do I after having just gotten played by a sociopathic woman. Ah well. Walls are going back up. Real ones this time

So here's the question, CT.

Fore her, what would you choose?

Rectification, or games?

xQuorrax Wrote:I think we're a depressing bunch. Heh..

exactly why i haven't added to this thread earlier.
my current relationship is functional and healthy, no real turmoil or fights, and many of the same interests, been going strong for 11 years now.

as for my past, i could tell stories for weeks.
i used to have a thing where i ended up with psychos, and i mean the death threats written in blood, mailing you animal parts kind of girls.
they never really seemed that way when i met them, mind you.