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|Kat Wrote:But again, what is "crazy"? Crazy to me means, you know, they're so pissed they try to firebomb your house. Crazy means they tried to firebomb your house because you told them you don't like their shoes. "Crazy" as described by most men, including my ex, means, "I fucked her over in a big way and she dared to get angry about it instead of saying 'oh yeah man, it's cool, shit happens'." Many of these men the same ones who would punch out the lights of a guy who did to them even remotely similar to what they did, but that is apparently not "crazy." See the difference?|
Naa, anger isn't crazy. I deem crazy as "pushing the envelope to the full extent of the law." I don't think one needs to do something that can actually get the police riled up in order to be crazy. Maybe I'm wrong, but I don't think everyone who is crazy is incapable of realizing that they could get thrown in prison for acting on their impulses.
Ugh. Not long ago I found a copy of two emails my ex had written our friend after we split up (our friend forwarded them to me). I'd forgotten how bad they were...it's been almost six years and I still felt sick when I read the crap he made up about me. We're talking, he made this whole email sound like I was downright abusive. He was writing shit like (I paraphrase) "I was always afraid to act happy around her so I didn't get smacked" and "I finally feel free to be myself" and "it's so nice not to have to worry about what I say so I don't get hit" and "I never realized how it would feel to be able to make my own decisions, even things as simple as what to eat for dinner" and "I know people are going to tell me they're happy we split up because nobody liked her" and all that. What??? WHAT??? FUCKING WHAT????
NONE of that shit EVER happened. Shit, I was the person who spent four years of my life trying to convince him nearly every damn day not to kill himself, and be there for him, even if there was other shit I needed or wanted to do. And he DARED to tell people I was abusive? (See, I'm getting steamed again just thinking about it) why the HELL would I do any of that shit he said I did???
And he was telling people *I* was crazy??? When he was out there making up shit like that to tell people (and that was just what he told a mutual friend of ours who was more my friend than his even; I can only imagine what he told his family and our other friends). I....don't even know where he came UP with that BS. Anybody with half a brain who had witnessed more then five minutes of our relationship should've known it wasn't true, but I find it's amazing how people will believe what they want to believe, and I'm sure there were a few people who could take "remember that time he was acting like an immature dickwad and she told him to knock it off" and think about it enough and turn it into "remember that time he was minding his own business and she told him he was a disgusting asshole and punched him in the face?" NOBODY ever came out and said "dude, I didn't believe anything he said about you" or "I can't believe he did that shit, he's not my friend anymore." NOBODY of our mutual friends. They just all acted like the whole thing wasn't a big deal.
THAT is crazy. Maybe not illegal, but crazy--to cheat on somebody, dump them by email, well, that sucks, but then try to make yourself look justified by making up awful shit about them. Wow. I never realized that until just now...I just always chalked it up to him being an asshole, but I think that would come damn close to "nutjob" territory.